"A sympathetic exploration of the misunderstood phenomenon of women and 'the stubbornness of romantic obsession.'"
"The heart, indeed, is a lonely hunter. As Phillips shows, the hunt may be more engrossing, more thrilling, but more
disappointing than the catch. Unrequited lovers will learn they are not alone, and they will also acquire useful tips on ways
of letting go for good."
"Phillips is a fluid storyteller, incorporating her own experience with unrequited love into a cross-disciplinary journey
through changing ideas of desire."
- Publisher's Weekly
"Phillips explains the psychology and biology of extreme love—not so different from OCD or addiction—and notes the
damaging tendency to excuse stalkers if they are women."
"Phillips writes of the obsession that "changed me from a sane, conscientious college teacher and radio reporter into
someone I barely knew—someone who couldn't realize that she was taking her yearning much, much too far."