Lisa A. Phillips  •   Writing   •   Reporting   •   Radio

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The summer Lisa A. Phillips turned thirty, she fell in love with someone who didn't return her feelings. She soon became

obsessed. She followed him around, called him compulsively, and talked about him endlessly. One desperate morning, after

she snuck into his apartment building, he picked up a baseball bat to protect himself and threatened to dial 911. Her

unrequited love had changed her from a sane, conscientious college teacher and radio reporter into someone she barely

recognized—someone who had taken her yearning much too far.

In Unrequited, Phillips explores the tremendous force of obsessive love in women's lives. She argues that it needs to be

understood, respected, and channeled for personal growth—yet it also has the potential to go terribly awry.

Interweaving her own story with frank interviews and in-depth research in science, psychology, cultural history, and literature,

Phillips describes how romantic obsession takes root, grows, and strongly influences our thoughts and behaviors.

Going beyond images of creepy, fatally attracted psychos, male fantasies of unbridled female desire, and the platitudes of

self-help books, Phillips reveals a powerful, troubling, and surprisingly common phenomenon. As she illuminates this

mysterious psychological experience, placing it in a rich and nuanced context, she offers compelling insights to help any

woman who has experienced unrequited obsessive love and been mystified and troubled by its grip.


"A sympathetic exploration of the misunderstood phenomenon of women and 'the stubbornness of romantic obsession.'"

- Kirkus


"Phillips is a fluid storyteller, incorporating her own experience with unrequited love into a cross-disciplinary journey through

changing ideas of desire." 

Publisher's Weekly


In Bookstores January 27, 2015



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"The heart, indeed, is a lonely hunter. As Phillips shows, the hunt may be more engrossing, more thrilling, but more

disappointing than the catch. Unrequited lovers will learn they are not alone, and they will also acquire useful tips on ways of

letting go for good."

- Booklist