“I hope they make this required reading not only for every teenage girls in
America but for every boy, man and woman, whether partnered or not, because
we could all use a dose of its well-researched wisdom.”
The Washington Post
“What happens when we can’t stop wanting someone who won’t love us back? In
Unrequited, Lisa Phillips tackles with empathy and wisdom the pain of desire that
is left unreciprocated.”
Esther Perel, author of Mating in Captivity
“The heart, indeed, is a lonely hunter. As Phillips shows, the hunt may be more
engrossing, more thrilling, but more disappointing than the catch. Unrequited
lovers will learn they are not alone, and they will also acquire useful tips on ways
of letting go for good.”
"Unrequited offers a compassionate perspective toward those seeking insight
into complicated heartache, particularly women struggling to move forward with
their love lives."
Pittsburgh City Paper
“Rare is the woman who hasn’t struggled with unrequited love and wondered
why it makes her feel so crazy. Deeply researched and compellingly written,
Unrequited unravels the complex psychology of this obsession and offers an
illuminating path back to balance and peace.”
Colette Dowling, psychotherapist and author of The Cinderella Complex
“Phillips is a fluid storyteller, incorporating her own experience with unrequited
love into a cross-disciplinary journey through changing ideas of desire.”
"A sympathetic exploration of the misunderstood phenomenon of women and 'the
stubbornness of romantic obsession.'"
“Unfortunately, there is no cure for the pain of rejection, although researchers are
working on it. Until then, Phillips suggests we ‘honor passion by confining and
using it instead of letting it diminish us.”
"Phillips explains the psychology and biology of extreme love—not so different
from OCD or addiction—and notes the damaging tendency to excuse stalkers if
they are women."
"Phillips writes of the obsession that "changed me from a sane, conscientious
college teacher and radio reporter into someone I barely knew—someone who
couldn't realize that she was taking her yearning much, much too far."
"Lisa A. Phillips tackles a timely, deeply personal topic....This is a compellingly
written, eye-opening guide."
"In the telling of her own story and those of numerous other women,
Phillips pieces together a fascinating journey into the minds of those who have
"Lisa A. Phillips’s Unrequited explores the psychological components of
unrequited love and romantic obsession, but she captures the invigorating side of
unrequited experiences, too. Unrequited love signals brand-new emotional
territory and the ability to learn about yourself."