The summer Lisa A. Phillips turned thirty, she fell in love with someone who didn't return her feelings. She soon became
obsessed. She followed him around, called him compulsively, and talked about him endlessly. One desperate morning,
after she snuck into his apartment building, he picked up a baseball bat to protect himself and threatened to dial 911. Her
unrequited love had changed her from a sane, conscientious college teacher and radio reporter into someone she barely
recognized—someone who had taken her yearning much too far.
In Unrequited, Phillips explores the tremendous force of obsessive love in women's lives. She argues that it needs to be
understood, respected, and channeled for personal growth—yet it also has the potential to go terribly awry.
Interweaving her own story with frank interviews and in-depth research in science, psychology, cultural history, and
literature, Phillips describes how romantic obsession takes root, grows, and strongly influences our thoughts and
Going beyond images of creepy, fatally attracted psychos, male fantasies of unbridled female desire, and the platitudes of
self-help books, Phillips reveals a powerful, troubling, and surprisingly common phenomenon. As she illuminates this
mysterious psychological experience, placing it in a rich and nuanced context, she offers compelling insights to help any
woman who has experienced unrequited obsessive love and been mystified and troubled by its grip.